Paul Said:

married to a teenage single mother?

We Answered:

Seriously, you sound like the greatest guy ever! I'm so happy for you and your new family! You almost made me cry it was so sweet, haha.

Gee, thats a hard one. It depends really what EXACTLY she saw.

First of all, I think it would be best for her mother to explain it because shes less likely to think its a lie (because if you were hurting her mother, why wouldn't you lie, right?). You should maybe explain in not in such a literal way ("We were doin' the nasty!"), but maybe something along the lines of:

-Play wrestling/ play fighting
-Helping her crack her back
-Showing her how much you love her.

As far as getting close to her again, try having some daddy-daughter time. Pick her up from preschool/ kindergarden and act her happy, ask her if she wants to go get ice cream/ get a new barbie/ swim at the public pool (etc, etc, etc. All depending one what she enjoys doing the most).

If you can help it, don't have another baby for a couple years. At least until you both have steady, well paying jobs (preferably a house, too). If it turns out your wife is pregnant, oh well! Embrace it and work hard for your family! It might be tough, but it will just be a blessing in disguise!

Good luck! You'll do great!

Ruth Said:

My world is falling apart...any advice on how to deal?

We Answered:

wow u remind me so much of myself, first of all nothing is ur fault ok, and honestly i dont want 2 sound mean but why r u in charge of taking care of ur family, i know u love them but what i mean is why ur mom cant find another job? and why she has a man for???it is not ur responsibility to try to fix ur mothers mistakes, u need to concentrate on u cause if u mess up at school u not gonna get anywhere and u can end up like ur mother. and yeah ur situation is very complicated u need to go to a shelter and try to get a part time job that doesnt interfere with school talk to ur counselor and they can probably find someone that can help u get to that class u need. look i know its stressfull but nothing is impossible ur doing good so far, u looking 4 help and u still in school. just look around u theres a lot of people that can help, u need just need 2 be heard, so speak up and u will see how many people will help u ok. well good luck and i really hope everything goes better.

Erica Said:

Single teenage mother starting her freshman year at college?

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well she can apply for FAFSA, which is a governemnt aid for all students. IF she has done this and qualifies(even if she doesnt qualify for FAFSA money ) then she can get all kinds of assistance such as:
childcare at the university, most universitties have child care that are paid for by student fees she should find out so that she can have a sitter for when she is in class and needs to study and work. this is free or she may have to pay a little

Other types of assistance are foudn at the UNL, they should have a financial aid link, she can possibly apply for federal work study which gives her a job on campus when shes not in class and she keeps that money in order to pay for her classes and other expenses.

she can also get a student loan, she does not need your parents to sign anything it is her, as a student she instantyl qualifies for studnet loans that do not have to be paid for until 6 months after graduation. so dont worry about ur parents credit score.
also check your local state gov and see if they have programs for single moms, that want to go back to school in CA they have calworks which pays for the mom to go back to school provides a monthly stipend as well as free childcare.
Good luck!

Terry Said:

Why do people got to judge us young moms so harsh?

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Being a mother at fifteen is quite a sad thing, but your decision to keep him was probably the best decision you have ever made.
Yes things will get tough later, especially since you're still a young teen, but just believe in yourself and move on with life, thing will get better.
And yes we all do mistakes, because were human, and that doesn't mean that they should harass you all the time.
Your son has nothing has nothing to do with the wrongs you've done, so he surely doesn't deserve to be called a mistake.
Society on the other hand, does not think like us, and you cant stop them from thinking that way. They're like trolls, ignore 'em.
Your parents will forget about it soon(or maybe they already have)
You do not deserve to be called names now
I mean, take a look at what MJ was, he was a great guy, he did a lot a wrong things but he was still a great guy.
We should learn to respect people for the good that they do, rather then cursing them for the wrongs they have done.
So my last words are, Good luck in years ahead!

Sylvia Said:

Teenage mothers, have you got any success stories to tell?

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I have not yet become a mother but June 2009 I will be. I am 20...not such a "teenager" but still young. I was told by my mother who I am living with at this moment that I have until January 1st to get out of the house and on my own. I have a crappy job that gives me about 10 hours a week and my fiance is a great man but can be emotionally abusive so he is seeking counsling. My mother cried out ABORTION when I first found out back in september. And had called me every degrading word in the book- my family and realitives refuse to talk to me and feel I'm making a horrible choice. I almost walked in for an abortion but my fiance and I had a horrible feeling about it and felt God would not give us something that he knew we could not handle. So we decided to keep it and God will show us the way and help us through this. I am a fulltime college student. I am on my second year for my associates but now I am FAR behind on graduating this year due to missing so many classes because I dont ever feel good b/c of morning sickness. My fiance is also black and my family makes comments on how it will look like a Zebra baby and how our baby will suffer and be made fun of. I am in debt with bills and school loans and so is my fiance. I am absolutly broke too. But still have to find a place to live by jan. I'm hoping my story turns out into succsess just like it has for you AMAZING and STRONG woman! I have hope that everything will work out with just listening to your stories... So I would like to thank you :-)

God Bless.

Ps. The one thing that has made me happy....I heard the heartbeat for the first time about 3 weeks ago. And I cried my eyes out. Just to think I almost killed this child b/c others wanted to place judge on me... and now I heard the heartbeat that will with be placed on this earth for me to fill with love and for it to love me!!!! That was the happiest day of my life...hands down.

Nina Said:

why do teenage mothers drop out of high school?

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They might not have the ability to raise a child while in school. You must have someone to baby sit or have the money for day care while you're in school, where others can not. I'd personally leave a public high school and get an at home schooling. That way I can raise the child and be there. I wouldn't be able to afford day care when I was 16...and wouldn't of had anyone to watch him/her.

Congrats!